What to Do When Rejected on Valentine’s Date Proposal

What to Do When Rejected on Valentine’s Date Proposal

You will not always get what you want. This is a fact that you need to know. When you try to ask a girl for a Valentine’s date, do not expect 100% for her to accept your invitation. Chances are, there are others guys out there who are eyeing the girl that you would like to date and maybe they have done better preparation than you to get her approval. And when you are rejected, though I will say that “do not feel bad about it”, it is normal to be depressed that is why you need to consider these ideas if you would like to overcome depression caused by rejection.

Have a second option for date. This may sound bad to you, but you should not just try to ask only one to date. There should be a way for you to pursue your date with someone after being rejected. Remember that there are so many girls in the world and rejection is not the end of the world for you.

Be calm and do not make a violent reaction. Remember that you are only asking that person to date with you and she has the right to accept or not to accept your proposal. Be prepared for any answer that will come from her and do not make any violent reaction that you may regret someday.

Be polite and treat her right after the rejection. There are guys who change in the way they treat the girl after being rejected. You should not resort to this, instead, treat her right and be polite despite being rejected. You may increase her trust and gain higher favor from her the next time you will ask her for a date.

Date your family. Valentine’s Day is not just for lovers. If it is the time for love, bear in mind that you also love your family. Why not go out for a group date with your mother, father, sister and brother. Or, it could be more meaningful and romantic if you will sponsor a date between your mother and father during the Valentine’s Day. You will find relief this way.

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The 7 ways to communicate better with your partner

The 7 ways to communicate better with your partner

In an interview on the radio dzMM program “Sakto” on Thursday, family and relationship expert Joji Racelis shared seven tips on how partners can more effectively connect with each other.

1. Keep your voice soft
Talking to your partner in a softer voice – as opposed to shouting or sounding sarcastic – will help a lot in getting your point across without the unnecessary drama, said Racelis.

“Nakakatulong siya kasi kapag malakas ang boses mo, it can be really threatening [for some] lalo na kung sensitive ‘yung pinag-uusapan. Tapos ‘pag pagalit ‘yung dating, magiging defensive ‘yung usapan so they put up their walls,” she said.

“Kapag mas malambing ‘yung boses, mas madaling [makipag-usap], hindi nakakatakot,” she added. “So don’t yell [at your partner] o mabagsik ang dating.”

Racelis said the key is to make your voice sound “natural with very mild modifications.”

“You have to regulate it pero natural pa rin. Kasi kung ‘yung natural mo hindi naman malambing tapos bigla kang naging malambing, para ka namang plastic. So it’s best to really adhere to your personality with very mild modifications,” she said.

2. Always make him/her feel important

Competition between partners is common, especially if they belong to the same field of work. Men, for instance, tend to feel insecure about themselves if their wives or girlfriends have a higher income, noted Racelis.

Given this, she said partners must be more sensitive and make it a point to highlight each other’s talents and skills.

“Look for areas where your partner excels. So maybe in terms of earnings hindi masyado, but he or she makes them feel safe or he or she is very good with the children,” she said. “Affirmation sa pareho ay important.”

3. Don’t make accusations, just say what you feel

There is a huge difference between saying what you feel and making an accusation, said Racelis, who stressed that the former can cause a lot of harm to a relationship.

“Never make accusations because that is painful,” she said.

When asked to suggest a way to better express your feelings without hurting your partner unnecessarily, Racelis said: “Like when you say, ‘you don’t love me,’ naga-accuse ka. But if you say, ‘I feel like you don’t love me’ or ‘I feel like you don’t respect me,’ malaking kaibahan ‘yun kasi hindi mo dine-declare that it’s a fact.”

4. Make sure actions are consistent with intentions

It’s one thing to want the best for your partner, and it’s another thing for you to give it to him or her, said Racelis.

She said some people do not realize that they are becoming too harsh to their partners because they are blinded by their good intentions.

“For example, my intention is to correct you para ‘di ka mapahiya sa iba, so I have good intentions. Pero minsan ang dating sa partner ay naminintas ka lang. E di nasasayang ‘yung good intention,” she said.

5. Leave your stress at the door
Do not turn your partner into a stress ball when your day did not go well, said Racelis, who stressed that loved ones should be treated with respect.

“We have to protect our partner from our moods. Kung inis tayo or stressed tayo, hindi siya ‘yung punching bag o pagbubuntunan ng stress. We don’t do that to our friends or to other people. Let’s not do it to our partners or members of our family,” she said.

Racelis went on to suggest a way of leaving stress and bad vibes at the door.

“Some people have a very nice ritual na bago sila pumasok ng bahay, they touch something and say a phrase like, ‘iiwanan ko ang lahat ng inis ko rito at hindi ko dadalhin sa bahay.’ It helps. It’s not magic, it just makes you aware na hindi ko ‘to dapat gawin,” she said.

6. Learn to listen, understand

Racelis said a good communicator is a person who can both deliver a message and understand what the other person feels.

She made the statement as some couples tend to focus too much on making their own voices heard.

“A good communicator does not mean somebody na magaling magsalita o magaling ang Ingles niya. Magaling lang siya mag-express. Ang communication is for you to be able to deliver a message and at the same time understand what the person is feeling. Hindi lang ‘yung, ‘o eto, nasabi ko na, bahala ka sa buhay mo.’ You have to be able to be sensitive enough na, ‘ano ba ‘yung dating sa tao? Natulungan ko ba siya? Na-address ko ba ‘yung issue niya?’ Dapat alam mo ‘yun.

“Ang nagpapalakasan ng boses, ang goal nila is not to communicate, their goal is to win an argument. But if you are dealing with a loved one, your goal is not to win – it’s to understand the other person,” she said.

7. Know when to stop

There are arguments that need to be settled before going to bed, and there are issues that cannot be resolved in one go, said Racelis.

Given this, she said couples should know when to take a break and cool their heads.

“Sometimes ‘pag masyado nang heated ‘yung argument, it is okay to call for a timeout, na ‘parang nagkakainitan na ata tayo masyado, baka pwedeng bukas na lang natin ito pag-usapan,’” she said.

Racelis also discouraged couples from bringing back past issues.

“Stick to the current issue. Wala nang ungkatan,” she said.

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Paulo Avelino confirms dating KC Concepcion

Paulo Avelino confirms dating KC Concepcion

MANILA – Actor Paulo Avelino took viewers of "Buzz ng Bayan" by surprise when he revealed that he is currently dating actress KC Concepcion.

Although he was initially hesitant to open up about his private life, Avelino nonetheless confirmed on national television that he and Concepcion are friends and that he likes the actress.

“Yes [we are friends]. Yes [I like her], we are dating. I just want to keep things private,” he said in a sit-down interview with “Buzz ng Bayan” on Sunday.

Asked how long have they known each other, Avelino said: “Matagal na kaming magkakilala. First work ko here sa ABS, ‘MMK’ with her. That was two years ago.”

Because of his admission, Avelino topped the local trending topics of Twitter as netizens expressed their surprise with the actor's revelation.

The “Honesto” actor added that he did not get jealous when Concepcion went out on a group date with NBA cager Chandler Parsons.

“Me as a person, hindi rin talaga ako seloso. I try to think about things first before I really say anything or just bring it out,” he said.

Furthermore, Avelino noted that it was Concepcion herself who said that she and the American athlete are just friends.

“Nasabi naman niya yung totoo, [na they are friends] so wala naman siguro problema,” he said.

Son with LJ

Meanwhile, Avelino opened up about his son with former girlfriend, actress LJ Reyes.

It was only recently when Avelino confirmed in a press conference that he and Reyes have already ended up their relationship although they continue to remain friends for their son.

“I want to protect the privacy of my son. I want him to have a simple life, a normal life. Kapag may sarili na siyang isip and sabihin niya na gusto niyang mag-showbiz or magtanong siya, choice niya na rin iyon,” he said.

Avelino said he treasures being a father and that he spends all his free time with his son.

“Kapag wala po akong trabaho, I don’t really think of it as my responsibilities as a dad. Siyempre kapag mahal mo ang anak mo, ginagawa mo na lang iyon kasi gusto mo makita anak mo, gusto mo siya makitang masaya, gusto mo siyang turuan ng values,” he explained.

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Andrei Felix breaks silence on breakup with Venus

Andrei Felix breaks silence on breakup with Venus

MANILA – For the first time, Andrei Felix spoke up about his breakup with 2010 Miss Universe fourth runner-up Venus Raj.

Raj confirmed their breakup last May without disclosing any details, only saying that their separation happened over the phone.

Speaking on “Buzz ng Bayan” where he was one of the guests on Sunday, Felix said he was initially confused as to why their relationship had to end.

“Hindi ko talaga alam. Hindi klaro. Nirerespeto ko 'yung mga dahilan niya, 'yung mga sinabi niya. She has her reasons,” he said.

In hindsight, Felix said he now understands that Raj just didn’t want her values, her family and her faith to be compromised.

“Noong time na iyon, hindi ko talaga maintindihan. It wasn’t clear but I understand,” he said.

Raj and Felix met as co-hosts of the ABS-CBN morning show “Umagang Kay Ganda” in 2011. In March last year, Raj admitted she was in a relationship with Felix.

In a previous interview, Raj slammed any chance for her and Felix to get back together, saying she regrets entering into a relationship with the TV host, which caused a rift in her family.

“Marami kasing taong nasaktan eh. Maraming taong nadamay, especially ‘yung pamilya ko. Umabot kami sa point na nag-away-away kaming magkakatapid. Umabot sa point na pinapapili ako ng mga kapatid ko kung sila or siya. Mas pinili ko siya. Hindi kami nag-usap ng mga kapatid ko for a few months. Na-miss ko ang pamilya ko doon,” she had said, without citing the reason behind the rift.

Realizing that she wants to return to her family, Raj decided to break up with Felix, ending their one-year relationship.

Felix, meanwhile, said he tried to fight for their relationship back then but he was not successful.

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Nikki Gil on split with Billy: 'I was a wreck, nadurog ako'

Nikki Gil on split with Billy: 'I was a wreck, nadurog ako'

Actress on ex-boyfriend Billy: We can't be friends

MANILA -- "Durog ka pa rin, durog pa rin ang pagkatao mo."

These were Nikki Gil's words in describing the heartbreak of separating from her boyfriend of five years, Billy Crawford, in her first interview addressing the controversial break-up at length.

The 26-year-old actress-singer was speaking with ABS-CBN News' Mario Dumaual shortly after a press conference held Wednesday launching her as the new endorser of clothing line Maldita.

Gil, earlier in the media gathering, referred to herself as a "wreck" as she recalled the time immediately after the split.

Asked to expound on this, Gil told ABS-CBN News, "I would always say I can only really discuss my story, what I went through as a person. Of course a lot of girls can relate to it."

"Talagang at some point, I was [a wreck]. Because it's still five years, it's still a heartbreak. Durog ka parin, durog pa rin ang pagkatao mo," she said.

"Pero the challenge there," Gil emphasized, "is how fast you can pick yourself up and walk away."

Gil and Crawford started what would become an almost five-year relationship when they co-hosted the talent search "Pinoy Dream Academy" in 2008.

An emotional Crawford confirmed their separation on July 28 this year in a televised interview. He declined to reveal the reason behind the split, but said "it all boils down to me."

Explaining why she has managed to move on easily, Gil said, "Sabi nila, 'When you know what you deserve, you don't look back.'"

While already past the heartbreak, Gil nonetheless said she would prefer not to be friends with Crawford at this time. The two are frequently within each other's vicinity, as they are both mainstays on ABS-CBN programs.

"I'm not rude, you know," Gil said. "I can be civil. But I also don't want to be fake. I'm a very real person. I don't like lying. Instead of lying to press, I won't say anything nalang."

"If your question is if we can be friends or not, parang not now. Parang no. I'm just being real. You know, I... I can't. Not now, at least," she said.

On Coleen, Andi

On the topic of Crawford's "It's Showtime" co-host Coleen Garcia, who has denied any romantic ties with the singer-host, Gil had a quick answer.

"That's really none of my business," Gil said. "I have nothing to do with that. Everyone has their story to tell. I can just talk about what I went through, and that's really none of my business anymore."

Gil was also asked about her ties with actress Andi Eigenmann, who, at one point, emotionally denied being involved in the break-up.

"I bumped into Andi one time and I said hi. I'm an educated person, you know. I will not be rude like that," Gil said.

As to whether she is ready to hear of Crawford being in a new relationship, Gil maintained she has already moved on from the painful end of their five-year romance.

"I don't care. I don't like looking back. I just want to move forward. I'm done with that. I think I've wasted enough time and energy on it. And okay na ako. Parang tama na, okay na ako. Things have been said, and things have come out. It is what it is, so I'm... Hands off na ako diyan," she said.

She continued, "For me, everything happens for a reason. Kung anuman 'yon, I'm thankful that it happened because it saved me from the past, and now I can move forward and meet the person that was destined to be with me."

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Parents of Freddie Aguilar's GF speak up

Parents of Freddie Aguilar's GF speak up

MANILA -- The parents of Freddie Aguilar's 16-year old girlfriend, Aling Violeta and Mang Joel, expressed their support for their daughter's controversial relationship with the OPM icon.

In an exclusive interview with ABS-CBN's "Buzz ng Bayan" on Sunday, the mother Aling Violeta admitted that she didn't approve of the relationship at first.

"Ang tagal naming pinagusapan 'yan. Pinagka-galitan pa naming mag-ina yan. Talagang pinagtatalunan namin," she said.

But after seeing how much her daughter wanted to be with Aguilar, she eventually changed her mind.

"Hindi ko na rin mapigilan. Kung pipigilan mo, lalo pong magwawala 'yan eh. Baka mas mapariwara ang buhay. Kaya sabi ko, kung ano ang gusto niya, 'sige, supportahan na lang kita," she said.

And much to the delight of Aling Violeta, she saw her daughter become more mature because of the relationship.

"Malaki po ang pinagbago. Ang ako po'y natutuwa sa pinagbago nang batang iyon. Mas mature na siya, mas may paggalang na siya sa amin ngayon," she said.

The couple, however, noted that they have become the subject of ridicule because of their support for the controversial May-December relationship.

"Kinukutsa kami ng kapwa tao. Ano ba kasi kaso ng anak ko sa gobyerno? Nangutang ba ang anak ko sa gobyerno?" said Mang Joel, the child's father.

"Ang tingin ng mga tao sa amin, mukhang pera kami. Na kaya ang anak namin ay nandoon dahil as pera. Hindi namin hinahangad ang pera. Parang insulto na rin sa kahirapan namin. Masakit po. Ayaw ko ng ganitong buhay," added her wife.

But despite the criticism, they assured their daughter that they still have their support and that they should prove to everyone what they already proved to them.

"Tibayan nila ang pagsasama nila. Pakita nila sa buong mundo na talagang nagmamahalan sila," said Aling Violeta.

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Luis and Jennylyn Break-up!

Luis and Jennylyn Break-up?!

MANILA (2nd UPDATE) -- It's over. Luis Manzano and Jennylyn Mercado have ended their two-year relationship, the actor-host confirmed Friday.

The Philippine Star entertainment editor Ricky Lo in his column on Friday said there was no no third party involved in the breakup, and the two simply "fell out of love."

"The crack in the romance surfaced when, according to a travel agent, Luis has his round-trip ticket drastically changed to solo (minus Jennylyn, that is)," Lo said.

Sought for comment on the report, Manzano, in a text message to ABS-CBN News on Friday afternoon, confirmed the separation. He appealed, however, to be given privacy as to the reason of the break-up.

This was the same message Manzano gave to "KrisTV" head writer, Darla Sauler.

In his blog, Sauler quoted Manzano as saying, "We want to keep things private na lang."

Just last week, Manzano denied that he and Mercado have already called it quits -- as reported by Sauler in his blog on October 9 -- saying the rumor, which began as a blind item, was "not true."

According to Sauler, Manzano insisted that he wasn't lying when he denied the report last week, noting that he and Mercado were even together during that week's Aliw Awards, where the Kapamilya actor was named best male emcee.

Reports of a rocky relationship between the celebrity couple has persisted for several months now. And while Manzano has consistently defended their relationship, last month, he may have been hinting about their future when remarked: "Ang relasyon naman ay dalawa lang yan -- either magkakatuluyan kayo or maghihiwalay kayo. Masyadong 50-50," Manzano said.

According to an article published on showbiz website Push.com on Friday, Manzano supposedly got suspicious when Mercado's name was dragged as the alleged third party in the separation of actor Paolo Contis from his wife, EB Babes dancer Lian Paz.

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Melai-Jason wedding set in December

Melai-Jason wedding set in December

MANILA -- Former "Pinoy Big Brother" housemates Jason Francisco and Melai Cantiveros are tying the knot in December in the comedienne's hometown of General Santos City, the couple confirmed on Thursday.

"Nandito po kami ngayon sa General Santos City maayos naman po kami at may inaasikaso po para sa kasal," Francisco told ABS-CBNNews.com in an interview.

"Nagse-seminar po kasi kami sa Population Commission at sa Sabado at Linggo sa simbahan po para sa kasal sa December," Cantiveros added.

Cantiveros earlier admitted that she is pregnant with Francisco's child.

Francisco revealed that he went to Cantiveros' home to meet with her family and to formally ask for the comedienne's hand in marriage.

"Tapos na, namanhikan na po. Inaayos na lang po yung kasal," Francisco said.

The two will return to Manila soon to continue their showbiz commitments.

"Babalik pa kami diyan kasi may offer po pero hindi pa po pwedeng sabihin, pero may offer po na gagawin naming project ni Jason," announced Cantiveros, who is one of the hosts of the upcoming reality show "I Dare You," which will start airing on Saturday.

The couple also thanked their fans who have expressed their concerns.

"Ok naman po kami dito. Maayos naman po kami. Salamat po sa inyong lahat," Francisco said.

"Gusto ko pong magpasalamat sa lahat dahil sinuportahan nila ako, lalo na sa pagkakataong ito. Ayaw ko lang talagang i-risk 'yung (buhay) ng baby ko. I'm very happy at masaya ako at napakabait at supportive ng soon-to-be husband ko si Jason. (Sinisiguro) ko po sa inyo, maayos po kami. Maraming salamat, babalik kami diyan (sa Maynila) agad," assured Cantiveros.


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